Lingam Massage

(The “Ala Carte”) The Sanskrit word for the male sexual organ is “Lingam” and is loosely translated as “Wand of Light.”   Its meaning is different from the typical Western view of the penis.   In Sacred Sexuality, the Lingam is respected and honored.  It is a “Wand of Light” that channels creative energy and pleasure.  Lingam massage is the ritual of honoring and healing this part of the body. Touching the penis not from a place of arousal and orgasm but from a joy and wonder of this beautiful part of the body. Ejaculation is not the goal of Lingam massage however it is a most enjoyable side effect. The goal is to massage the Lingam, testicles and perineum, allowing the man to surrender to a form of pleasure he may not be used to.  Men need to learn to RELAX and RECEIVE  -a non-traditional role for most men who have grown up understanding that he is the “host” or M.C. whenever he has sex with a partner.  Even the healthy practice of masturbation can tend to be very “goal-oriented”. Because of traditional sexual conditioning, m any men find it challenging to simply r eceive pleasure from his Lingam, completely free from reciprocation or responsibility for his partner’s experience. Lingam Massage provides an appropriate setting for a man to relax, receive and learn the basics of Deliberate Orgasm. I get to experience the joy of facilitating and witnessing him surrender to his gentler, more receptive side.  This is an excellent process to build trust, intimacy, confidence and can be very helpful to men healing from negative sexual conditioning and trauma.  The entire process helps with E.D., premature or delayed ejaculation, improving sexual stamina and helping you to enjoy your sexuality to the greatest extent possible. 

Lingam & Prostate Massage

(“The Combo”) Both the “Ala Carte” and the “Combo” begin with Lingam Massage but with “The Combo”, your backside gets the royal treatment too.  Prostate Massage begins with digital anal stimulation and will typically proceed all the way up to penetration, milking and if desired “ plowing”.  For extra reach, I have a few “tools” I often use should you choose to let me share them with you.  Whether you are seeking extra prevention for the health of your “ walnut” or just looking for assistance with pleasuring that part of your body, I am your best choice for a fun, nurturing, careful, pain-free experience. Yoni Massage & Body Image Therapy This starts with a full-body moisturizing rubdown for females by a heterosexual female. The rest of the session is customized to her needs depending on which area(s) she is wanting to develop -for example, orgasm coaching, guidance and support for body-image acceptance or sexual independence, adult sex education, etc.   If you have no specific needs or goals in mind, then the rubdown is followed by a Yoni massage which will be performed under your directions.  To date, sadly, I am the only heterosexual female in this and adjacent counties providing FBSM with optional “happy ending” included for everyone with female genitalia.

Couples’ Therapy or Training Sessions

Based upon information or requests from your emails prior to your appointment, these sessions are 100% custom which makes description here difficult. Some of my past sessions have included somatic sex coaching, counseling/training for couples who are interested in further developing intimacy, increasing pleasure and learning to talk to each other in a sexual context.  I have met a few of the happiest couples through these sessions which typically involve training Mrs. to perform prostate massage on Mr. after he decides he likes it or sharing new methods for Mr. to pleasure Mrs.

With lots of warmth, empathy, acceptance and of course humor!  I am older, wiser and know how to get the most fun out of every situation.  I have many years of counseling experience, specializing in relationships, positive self-image work, gratitude training and of course sexuality. According to the latest info, I am what is currently called an “Intuitive Somatic Sexologist”.

I am also an artist (acrylic, digital and photography) whose favorite subject matter is the human body.   My personal tastes run toward the twisted end of the spectrum so there really is nothing you can say to embarrass or alienate me!    Co-pays for consultations which include the standard therapies shown above are:

Minimum appointment is 60 minutes.  Unless specifically arranged, all appointments are an hour long. Co-payments are due in cash only at the beginning of your appointment. It is recommended that you bring the exact amount as I seldom can make change. I do not bill insurance but discounts  are offered for monthly or weekly patients and active military.

• $134 Lingam Massage (ala carte)
• $170 Lingam & Prostate Massage (combo)
• $170 Yoni Massage & Body Image Therapy
• $206 Couples’ Therapy or Training Sessions

When?

To accommodate those with very restricted schedules, I have added Saturday morning on to my weekly schedule and by advance appointment only .    Appointments are one hour and must be scheduled by email at least 12 hours in advance.  Due to confidentiality & privacy concerns, there are no walkins ever.   Same day appointments  occur only for those who are already on the standby list waiting for a cancellation. For Dads, Husbands & Others with Curfews, appointments are at a premium so it is best to plan ahead and book early so you can get your choice of appointment times and so your boys have time to get nice and full for me.   Minimum of 8 hours  prior notice of cancellation is appreciated.

Where?

The “Walnut Healing Arts Center” (W.H.A.C.) is located in Anaheim Hills, near the 91 at Lakeside. As a practitioner of “Personal Exit Strategies & Relationship Counseling“, my office is not labeled to protect  our privacy. For privacy & security purposes, the door is kept locked at all times and sessions are strictly by appointment only.  There are no walk-in’s ever.  If you will be more than five minutes late, please text or email me with your adjusted ETA.  If you arrive early, please knock only if I have confirmed that we can begin early. 

Who?

If I am to continue saving walnuts and marriages on the downlow, my superhero identity and hidden lair must remain secret and separate from my life as a mild-mannered mom and wife.  For that reason, t here are only discreet photos of me posted here for verification that I am female because I require just as much privacy and confidentiality as you do.   Feel free to email me photos (rated G through XXX) of yourself anytime, however requests for additional photos of myself other than those posted below will NOT receive a response.  

As a relationship counselor and a “Somatic Sexologist”, it is my priority to help you enjoy your body and sexuality to the fullest extent possible.  If it matters,  I am also Asian, sturdy-built, fifty something with unenhanced 36-DD’s.  I typically wear PG-13 lingerie.   Please feel free to bring your favorite porn (your laptop, phone or tablet), toys, stockings for your legs only, or any other lingerie you like to wear.   I always enjoy learning about and watching what turns you on.     I do not require you to be physically attractive or H.W.P. just of legal age, discrete, with good hygiene and a sense of humor.  By the way, shouting or repeating a joke makes it less funny so if you have one, please remember to bring your hearing aid.

Why?

Because it feels good and because a healthy walnut is a happy walnut and most of all because you deserve it.  

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Details – Schmeetails

Discreet Photos All the pictures that I can safely share (plus one that makes me nervous) are posted at the bottom of my FAQ.  I lead a dual life both as the superhero, “The Walnutsaver”, and as somebody’s mom so both identities need to be protected if I am to continue saving lives and marriages. Porn There are two reasons that I mention the porn.   (1) as much fun as this is, it is really sex therapy via touch & talk so you should take advantage of the confidentiality of our sessions and share whatever fetishes or addictions you may have.  For example, you probably don’t have any friends you feel comfortable telling about your love of midgets who wear open-toed shoes or strippers who use live snakes in their act, etc. but I would never judge you and would enjoy it right along with you;  (2) because I am only able to post photos that prove I am female, if you are very visually-oriented the porn is a backup in case I look a little too much like one of your in-laws or you don’t find me appealing in “that way”.  So if you feel you may need it, feel free to B.Y.O.P.   Pussy With all the different nicknames for female genitalia available, it boggles my mind how the word “pussy” is so universally used by both the mundane and the obscene.  As an artist, a sex educator and a hedonist, I have looked at many women’s genitalia as well as my own and for the life of me, cannot see the resemblance to a cat or other feline.  Furthermore, I think I speak for every woman who has lost her virginity, weakness or cowardice is not a common trait of female genitalia.  I cringe whenever mine is referred to as a “pussy”.  Why not a tiger or a jaguar?  Or any of the many other “vaginyms” -for example, box, snatch, twat, gash, muff, trim, cooter, beaver, tang, pie, pink taco, junk, cooch, poonani, quim, cunt or even fuckhole?  My preference is “flower” and you may call mine “The Orchid” or simply “Her” or “She”.  Also, if your lingam has a name, I would love to hear it!      Tools & Toys Even if you have owned one before, I recommend the “Buddy System” when using a brand new toy for the first time.  This is the best way to avoid embarrassing surprises and accidents (i.e. falling in the shower and explaining to the paramedics that you have no idea how that object became lodged in your rectum, etc.).  If needed or preferred, bring the new toy with you to your next appointment and we will explore it together. Everything I use on you is clean and safe.  Please let me know before you arrive if you have any latex allergies.  Confidentiality Our sessions are completely confidential so feel free to bring your toys, lingerie and any other props or media you enjoy.  Also, if you are ordering “things” and need a private place to have them delivered, you can always use my address.  I actually provide storage for my patients who have no safe place to keep their toys at home. Co-Payments There are several ATM’s in the area but please remember whether or not your bank statement shows the location or city of the bank you used.  If discretion is a concern and you do not work or live in the O.C., you would do better to use an ATM closer to your work or home.  Standard Therapies  Other treatments besides the three standard therapies described on my Home page are available.  I also work with women, couples and small groups too.  Orgasm coaching for women and my “Men’s Bi-curious Adventures” (all male participants) therapies are also very popular.  During your lingam massage is a great time to describe your idea(s) or special needs and get a quote and, of course, you are always encouraged to email me your uncensored thoughts at any time.  All sessions involving more than just you and me must be bookedat least one week ahead and require a deposit.   Dads, Husbands & Others with Curfews “Good dads are sexy”, I always say so I do everything I can to accommodate your scheduling needs.  My system of appointment-scheduling is designed to keep us both hyper-organized which is crucial for maintaining secrecy.  Email is the most efficient way to schedule an appointment.  I text you only when necessary.  It is the intention of my therapies to assist/save marriages, not to cause problems so please let me know if you need assistance with covering your technical tracks or setting up your own private email address.  I am hoping in the near future, “proactive prostate care” will no longer need to be kept “on the DL”. -maybe even get insurance to cover it as preventative treatment.  Prior Notice of Cancellation & Changes Just as fines for breaking traffic laws double in a construction zone, the “karma” earned for rude or negative treatment of a mother is doubled and doubled again if she is a single mom.  My intentions for/towards you are always good so please make your parents proud and be considerate when changing or cancelling appointments.  Prostate Health But seriously Walnutowners, here is an excerpt from Harvard Medical School’s “Prostate Knowledge” website documenting what many of us have always known: that diligent “prostate hygiene” can reduce a man’s risk of prostate cancer by 1/3. “As part of Harvard’s Health Professionals Follow-up Study, 29,342 men between the ages of 46 and 81 reported their average number of ejaculations per month in young adulthood (ages 20–29), in mid-life (ages 40–49), and in the most recent year.  Ejaculations included sexual intercourse, nocturnal emissions, and masturbation.  Study participants also provided comprehensive health and lifestyle data every two years from 1992 to 2000. The scientists found that men who ejaculated 21 or more times a month enjoyed a 33% lower risk of prostate cancer compared with men who reported four to seven ejaculations a month throughout their lifetimes.  An Australian study of 2,338 men came to a similar conclusion. In all, men who averaged 4.6 to 7.0 ejaculations a week were 36% less likely to be diagnosed with prostate cancer before the age of 70 than men who ejaculated less than 2.3 times a week on average.” more A word of caution to the very busy guy who would crunch the numbers to determine the minimum that he ‘has to do” to receive this preventative benefit is to try to cum once every other day rather than trying for 0.657 daily. Though none of the studies mention the effect(s) of a “partial ejaculation”, I believe future research will confirm that a “half-gasm” is worse than none at all.